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Bernard McDowell, lcsw
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Psychotherapy & Couples Counseling    
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2700 SE 26th Avenue Suite D, Portland, OR  97202
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503-234-9904


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Interpersonal Communication Skills
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    While its true that by three years of age a child can learn several languages simply by growing up in an environment where those languages are spoken, modern science hasn't been terribly successful in modeling out how successful communication works.  In fact, its very complex!  Numerous theories have come and gone about how children learn languages across cultures.  Hundreds of books are churned out every few years on business communication, teaching, etc..  Ironically enough, the very word, communication, is now completely nebulous referring to everything from computers to media to non-verbal skills.
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                 Perhaps, the most sophisticated model of interpersonal communication was dubbed “neurolinguistics” [NLP] by its developers, Bandler and Grinder.  Using Noam Chomsky's transformational grammar model of how people learn languages, they studied the linguistic patterns of several very famous therapists, known for getting spectacular results.  Many common patterns were found among those therapists as well as noted  teachers and salespeople.  Later, they developed models of non-verbal behavior.  The first article below is actually an outline that I use for workshops with practical hands on training.  It wasn't originally intended to stand alone as a piece of explanatory writing but it may give a sufficient sense of the elegance of this model of communication.  For longer courses, I have much more detailed syllabi available.
             The second article below builds on the basic premises of the first article.  Again, it is intended for use in very short training sessions of an hour or two or as a a reminder for clients with whom I'm working on these issues.  My hope is that in reading it here without any guidance you may get a good idea or two to take into meetings with the boss or co-workers, or others with whom you are trying to work out a conflict.

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            Couples Communication: This you to a page with a link to a website
            devoted to couples counseling with articles germane to couples.
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